Question 1

How do I know if counselling is right for me?

Accepted Answer

You don't need to be in crisis to benefit from counselling. Many people come to therapy because they feel overwhelmed, anxious, stuck in relationship patterns, struggling with low self-esteem, or simply want to understand themselves better. Counselling offers a safe, confidential space to explore what's happening and find a way forward.

Question 2

I've never had counselling before. What can I expect?

Accepted Answer

It's normal to feel nervous about your first session. It is important to remember that there is no pressure to share and we will go at your pace.  You are always in control of the session and it takes a few sessions to build a level of trust.  We will start by chatting about what has brought you to counselling, what you'd like help with, and what you hope to gain from therapy.  Tears are very welcome but its ok if it takes time to feel comfortable with me.

Question 3

How many counselling sessions will I need?

Accepted Answer

This varies from person to person and there is no obligation to attend a set number. Some clients find a few sessions helpful, while others choose longer-term therapy to explore deeper issues and patterns. We can review your progress together and decide what feels right for you.  The best progress is made with regular attendance and commitment which is why I offer a small discount if you book 10 sessions in advance.

Question 4

What is attachment-focused therapy?

Accepted Answer

Attachment-focused therapy explores how your early key relationships may have influenced how you feel about yourself, how you relate to others and how you feel others will respond to you/your needs. Attachment is all about connections. We connect (or attach) to others to feel safe. Understanding these patterns can help you build healthier relationships, improve self-esteem, and develop a greater sense of emotional security.

Question 5

What are attachment styles?

Accepted Answer

Attachment styles are patterns of relating to others that often develop in childhood. Common styles include secure, anxious, avoidant and disorganised attachment. These patterns can affect relationships, confidence, boundaries and emotional wellbeing.

Question 6

Can attachment-focused therapy help my relationships?

Accepted Answer

Yes, absolutely. Many people find that understanding their attachment patterns helps  find better ways to communicate, set healthier boundaries, reduce conflict, step away from people pleasing and develop secure relationships.

Question 7

Can counselling help with anxiety?

Accepted Answer

Absolutely! Anxiety is worry. It is future based and it can feel overwhelming and life crippling.  Counselling can help you understand the causes of anxiety, identify triggers, develop coping strategies and build confidence in managing difficult thoughts and feelings.

Question 8

Can counselling help with low self-esteem?

Accepted Answer

Absolutely! Self-esteem is the value we place on ourselves and it is often destroyed through life experiences, relationships, judgement, shame and messages absorbed in childhood. Therapy can help you understand these influences, challenge negative beliefs and develop a kinder, more compassionate relationship with yourself.

Question 9

Are sessions online or in person?

Accepted Answer

I offer online sessions or face to face sessions.  In person sessions take place at my counselling room in Lytham (FY8 5EE) Monday-Friday 9am – 6pm. The room is fully accessible and there is plenty of free parking and even a coffee shop.

Question 10

How long and how much is each session?

Accepted Answer

Sessions are typically 50 minutes.Individual counselling sessions are £60 per session.

Question 11

How often should I attend?

Accepted Answer

It is beneficial to attend weekly at first, to allow us to get to know each other and for you to start to see some positive change. We can discuss a frequency that works best for your needs and once you feel stronger, we can elongate the sessions out until you no longer need to counselling.

Question 12

Is counselling confidential?

Accepted Answer

Everything discussed in counselling is confidential, with a few legal and ethical exceptions relating to serious risk of harm or criminal activities. These will be explained fully before we begin working together and in my contract.

Question 13

What’s the difference between counselling and supervision?

Accepted Answer

Counselling is for individuals or couples to gain emotional strength and wellbeing. Supervision is what a counsellor attends monthly to discuss their client work and ensure they are working ethically and safely.

Question 14

What if I don't know what to talk about?

Accepted Answer

Many clients sit down and announce “I don’t know what to talk about today” and then proceed to have their best session.  It is absolutely okay to not have a specific agenda. Part of my role is helping you explore what's important and find words for experiences that may feel difficult to express.

Question 15

What if I cry during counselling?

Accepted Answer

Tears are a natural response to difficult emotions.  Tears help regulate our nervous system and your tears are always welcome in therapy. Counselling is a space where you don't need to hide how you're feeling.

Question 16

How do I start counselling sessions with you?

Accepted Answer

The first step is to simply GET IN TOUCH We can arrange an initial conversation to discuss what you're looking for and whether I feel like the right counsellor for you.

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